Umal-kheyr’s Story Midwifery Journey

Hi, I’m Fatima. It’s great to have you here. I’d like you to answer the following questions so that we can shed light on your story and experience in an engaging way.

Let’s start!

Could you tell us a little bit about yourself?

Hi! My name is Umal-kheyr. Childhood stories told by Hooyo (of course) have always included me playing with a fake stethoscope and a fake needle. My fascination with health was always ignited by a little me running around and chasing family members to play with my patients. In that light, it might not come as a surprise that I chose a profession that safeguards the normality of the pregnancy continuum, and advocates for a woman whose care I have been trusted with.

How did you get into your current field? And do you enjoy doing it? (E.g. of Fields such as nursing, and midwifery)

Throughout high school, I was always indecisive as to what I wanted to study at university- or even questioning if I was going to university at all. As my awkward high school journey continued, my aspirations continuously changed. At times, I wanted to become a doctor, a nurse, a physiotherapist and even a chef! When I was in year 12 (final year of high school), I was filling out university applications, and I came across this thing called ‘Midwifery’. I was mesmerized by this profession, after hours of reading and researching. I then decided to apply for a Bachelor of Midwifery degree. My midwifery journey started in 2015, 2 months after graduating from High school. It might sound cliché, but I love what I do. I love being a midwife— something that will never change.

Can you tell us about your favorite nursing or midwifery moment? (keeping things confidential for clients involved)

My favorite and memorable moment in my midwifery journey happened when I was in my second year of university—completing my birth suite clinical placement in a rural hospital. So, here it goes—I am looking after a laboring multi-gravida. As time goes by; the woman ends up in the shower (hot water can provide comfort and is excellent for labor). Her husband hoses her down while I am knelt and auscultating the fetal heart rate. As the hot water reaches her back, she sighs with significant relief. Her husband being incredible support reassures her and motivates her (such a beautiful sight to see). A few minutes later, the woman begins to moan. My buddy midwife and I look at each other with so much awe. She moans again, “I can feel it” she repeats “I can feel it”. I touch with my gloved hand; there it is—the baby’s head. And that was the day I caught a baby in a bathroom! From that day onwards, I learned the greatest lesson of all—Never underestimate a multi in labor.

How did you maintain consistency in your doings?

Being consistent was one of the greatest challenges I faced during the initial stages of my studies. At times, it felt as though I mastered the art of procrastination. Working on multiple jobs, and studying full time, I realized a critical lesson—Never spread yourself too thin. Never do or promise to do what you cannot manage. Challenge yourself, but don’t overdo it—because it will make you resent everything else that you do.

What is the most striking moment of personal “failure” you’ve experienced in nursing or midwifery?

One of my greatest failures was failing one of my subjects. It was a shallow moment in my midwifery journey. It became a catalyst for a lot of self-doubts. I kept questioning if being a midwife was the right thing to do (I know a bit dramatic – welcome to my life). But I realize time and time again that being a midwife is something I am supposed to be. I surrounded myself with family and friends who reminded me of my hard work and love for midwifery. Usually, after crying or eating a few too many ice-creams I—I see myself standing in front of a mirror cheering for myself.

How did you cope with your failure?

The way I moved forward from that failure or any other failures I went through in my profession is really honing down on reflecting. Reflection, either written or spoken, has allowed me to recognize what the problem is, how I will fix it and what to do if it happens again.

Caffeine or not caffeine for shift work?

Caffeine all the way every day! When I used to do my university studies, I used to drink 4-5 cups of black coffee, no milk, no sugar (no wonder I suffer from acid reflux L). While my love for coffee will never be replaced, I have found a new fascination with tea.

Where do you see yourself in 3-5 years? (Any reference to short- and long-term objectives).

In 5 years, I see myself still practising midwifery. I see myself dwelling in research. Midwifery and obstetrics have come a long way, but we still have so much to learn and improve on. For me, that’s where I know I belong—being the face of innovation and change.

How do you set priorities in your work?

Setting priorities is imperative. From applying for work to planning your day at the start of your shift. Learning what to tackle and what to leave for later is something that comes with practice. Definitely, something I am still trying to improve on. I set my professional and personal priorities by writing down what is urgent and what isn’t. Unfortunately, I am only one person, so I have learned not to spread myself too thin. Focus on one thing at a time. Be honest with myself! What I can’t do now, I will do later.

If you had one piece of advice to give a prospective nursing and midwifery student, what would it be?

Being a nursing or midwifery student is challenging (there is no denying that!). Know that there will be a lot of obstacles ahead of you. From people not believing in you and you not believing in yourself. From failing to not getting that job or grade you wanted—all of it comes along. Understand you are bigger and better than that. Knowledge and skills are things that can easily be taught, but compassion, care, passion, and people skills are things that are hard to learn. So as long as you love what you do, you are already halfway there. To all the amazing nursing and midwifery students; let this be a testament to you. If of all people I can make it, YOU WILL DEFINITELY MAKE IT! Best of luck with your studies, may Allah S.W.T make it easy for all of you.

Where can people reach out to you? (social media and email)

 

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